On not having it all figured out

I have a confession to make.

Exactly one month ago, I celebrated my 34th birthday ... And I still have no idea what I want to be when I grow up.

When I was in my teens, I envisioned my 20s as a glamorous decade. I'd be living in a luxury high-rise in the city, working at a high paying job, and flying around the world with my hot boyfriend on holidays. 
What really happened? 
-My first job out of college, my starting salary was 28K. Definitely not enough to live in a beautiful downtown high-rise in one of the most expensive cities in America. 
-I was traveling a lot, but not for fun, and definitely not in a glamorous way. Four nights a week I was on the road for my job, flying to tiny little towns across the country, living out of a suitcase, and eating the majority of my dinners alone at a hotel bar in the middle of nowhere. 
-I had no hot boyfriend because I had no time.

When I was grinding away in my 20s, I figured I'd be rewarded in my 30s for all my hard work. I'd have a stable career at a company that I loved. I'd have a house with a big yard and a husband and a couple kids. I was certain my life would come together. What really happened? 
-I got a hot husband last year (WIN!)
-I moved across the country on a whim and bought a little townhouse (no yard but still counting as a win!)
-I don't have kids but we do have a couple dogs (and love them dearly. Win!) 
-I just got laid off and have no idea what I'm doing next (quite literally the opposite of a stable career)

What I've realized now that I'm in my mid-30s is that it's okay to not have it all figured out. In fact, I don't think anyone actually does. And what's wrong with that? Having it all figured out means we're done growing, learning, and exploring. Having it all figured out means there's no room for surprises. And what's the fun in that?

Whether you're in your 20s and just getting started in your career, whether you're in your 30s/40s/50s and life just threw a massive curveball at you, or whether you're in your 60s and starting to think about your next chapter, let this be a reminder that it's OKAY to not know what your next move is. It's okay to not know where your career or your life is going. It's okay to feel a little lost at times. And it's okay to not have it all figured out.

After all, uncertainty is where the magic lives.